A young woman who was asleep in bed with her boyfriend and his toddler when they were doused in petrol and set alight by his crazed ex-lover showed amazing courage to rescue the children and pets – despite being ‘unable to save her beloved’.
Coletta Phillips, 30, and Stanley Obi, 33, had only been living in the home they bought together at New Beith in Brisbane’s southern suburbs for a few months before Sarah Mudge broke in and tried to kill them all at 3am on Thursday.
The father managed to get the toddler to safety while his new partner raced into the next room to rescue the other two children, both aged under five.
Mudge, 30, was killed in the blaze while Mr Obi was dragged out by a neighbour. He died in hospital later that night due to catastrophic burns to 90 per cent of his body.
Ms Phillip’s aunt said the young marketing professional’s life had been ‘shattered in the most horrific circumstances’.
Coletta Phillips, 30, and Stanley Obi, 33 (pictured together) were asleep when they were set on fire
Stanley Obi and Sarah Mudge (pictured together) had two children together. Mudge tried to kill them on Thursday
According to a fundraiser set up by Ms Phillips’ friend to help her recover, the young woman ‘courageously rescued the children and pets, however was unable to save her beloved.’
‘She has lost every single possession, down to her car keys, which melted in the fire,’ she wrote.
Loved ones are trying to raise money to buy clothes and basic items ‘to help her begin the healing journey’.
It is understood Ms Phillips suffered burns to her airway.
According to Mr Obi’s family, the mother-of-four’s horrific act of violence was triggered when she lost access to three of her four children during a court hearing the day before.
The ex-couple had two little girls together, and a third child was placed in Mr Obi’s care.
They had applied for domestic violence orders against each other before the tragedy.
Coletta Phillips (pictured with Stanley Obi) saved her partner’s three children and their pets
Stanley Obi (left) suffered burns to 90 per cent of his body after his ex-girlfriend (right) set him on fire
Mudge wrote a number of disturbing social media posts in the months leading up to her attack on Thursday – one of the worst was in a mother’s group where she threatened to kill Mr Obi if he ‘took the baby from me’.
‘F**k that, he did not try to do this, because it’s just not an option, I’d have killed him,’ she wrote.
In a separate post made by another mother asking if she should let a family member cut her child’s hair, the photographer replied: ‘you could add a P.S. ”Cut her hair and I’ll cut your throat”.
In another post, the 30-year-old told people in a domestic violence group that if she and her kids ended up dead it would be murder, and urged online users to point the finger at Mr Obi if anything were to happen – claiming it wouldn’t be an ‘accident’.
‘When we are gone, make sure everyone knows,’ she told users of the domestic violence social media group on December 1.
Sarah Mudge regularly posted online about how much she adored her family (pictured: Mudge’s younger sisters with her children)
Sarah Mudge urged social media users to point the finger at Mr Obi if anything were to happen to her or the kids (pictured)
‘When you see my name and my kids names, make sure they know I told everyone.
‘It’s not an accident. I won’t suicide with my kids, or whatever he does. It’s him. It will be him.’
The woman then told group members she wasn’t looking for advice, saying ‘there’s nothing I haven’t tried’, and urged them to ‘say something when you see us and make sure this never happens again’.
Mudge spoke about the impending custody battle in her post, explaining she was told to hand the kids to Mr Obi – who she referred to as ‘our abuser’.
‘[Mr Obi] told me he will kill them,’ she claimed.
‘What do I do? Send them on Saturday knowing they might not come home, or wait until the 8th and have them forcibly removed?’
Sarah Mudge doused Stanley Obi with petrol on Thursday morning and set him on fire (pictured together)
Stanley Obi and Sarah Mudge (pictured) were together for about two years after they met at a Christmas party
Mudge claimed hospital records detailed Mr Obi’s apparent suicide attempts, mental breakdown, and their daughter’s hospital admission had disappeared.
‘I don’t get it,’ she wrote.
‘He’s just a nurse, there’s no way he had access to delete it.
‘I don’t understand anything, how crazy am I? Did I imagine everything? I know I didn’t but I can’t understand.’
Mudge said there was no evidence of any abuse on his part without the hospital records, and that police didn’t believe her and accused her of trying to cause trouble.
While the specific hospital Mudge was referring to is unknown, a spokeswoman from Metro North Health told Daily Mail Australia that hospitals have ‘stringent record-keeping procedures’.
Mudge frequently wrote about her children on social media. In one post (pictured), she said her ‘heart beats’ for her kids
Stanley Obi is pictured on the day he decided to start a life with Sarah Mudge following a one night stand
Daily Mail Australia revealed earlier on Friday that Mr Obi and Mudge had a one night stand at a Christmas party in 2017, but only started dating after she fell pregnant.
‘He was conflicted and did not know what to do,’ Mr Obi’s friend Shaun Meakin told Daily Mail Australia.
‘He held Christian values, and he told me that he would not allow a baby to grow up without a father and committed to trying to make a life being a father to his child.’
Mr Meakin explained Mr Obi quit his job to start a life with Mudge, but the relationship started falling apart when she said she wanted six more children.
‘Stanley refused to have eight children, stating that he would not have children that he could not afford to support, and refused to bring children in to the world to raise them on welfare,’ he said.
Mudge gave Mr Obi the option of leaving the relationship, claiming he was nothing more than a sperm donor and that she would find a way to have more kids regardless.
Police believe the blaze at the Bidyan Boulevard property is suspicious and are investigating whether it is the result of a domestic violence incident
Forensic investigators trawled the scene of the scorched home on Thursday (pictured)
In June last year, she took to Facebook looking for African sperm donors, explaining she wanted to have as many kids as possible in quick succession due to her ‘expiring uterus’.
‘I have four wonderful children but my heart is not yet full,’ she wrote.
‘I only have a few years to complete my family and I’d like to have as many babes as I can.’
Mudge said she was a ‘single mama by choice’ and intended to stay that way until her children were grown, and told potential donors that the was specifically after men of African descent to ensure all her children had similar features.
In April 2020, Mudge wrote a Facebook post about how her heart ‘beats’ for her children.
‘When you have no strength left, you have your children. When you are tired they energise you, and when your heart is mourning they bring joy to your soul,’ she wrote.
‘To my babies, I thank you for choosing me. The ones I have now, and the ones I’m still waiting for, it is all my heart beats for. I am eternally grateful.’
Emergency services were called to the Bidyan Boulevard property at New Beith, south of Brisbane, around 3am on Thursday morning
Sarah Mudge’s charred body was found in the home on Thursday morning (pictured). She and Mr Obi died from their injuries
The mother had a YouTube channel dedicated to homeschooling, where she posted videos of her children cooking, doing science experiments and learning about human anatomy.
Just four days before the tragedy, Mudge was asking people in a local Facebook group for advice about identifying frogs found in their garden.
The last post, in November, described the first full year of homeschooling as a success.
She boasted about her son being a year ahead of his age as she hinted at a acrimonious split.
‘I hope I’m not forced through family court to send him to school to essentially repeat the year and hold him back. But there’s not much I can do,’ she wrote.
Three months earlier she posted: ‘We’re taking a little break. Our family is going through something huge and we’re out preserving and recovering.’
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