DEAR DEIDRE: IT seems my husband is doing all he can to avoid coming home to me.
I’m lonely. I had a life before children, working and going out with friends on the weekend. Now I’m with my boys 24/7.
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My husband is 29 and he works long hours. He gets home when I’m about to go to bed.
On weekends, he’s either helping his dad do up his new house or he’s coaching the kids’ football.
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I’m 26 and I do love my children so very much.
But sometimes, I would like to turn the clock back and have a life of my own again.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Parents sometimes say they lose their identity when they have children.
You need your husband’s support right now and it’s important that he knows you would like more time together.
When did you last enjoy a date-night out or even have a quiet dinner together with no phones or TV?
Ask that he tries to be home in good time one evening a week so you can do something together.
The National Childbirth Trust introduces parents to one another for friendship. See nct.org.uk or call 0300 330 0700.