DEAR DEIDRE: I HAD no intention of cheating on my boyfriend when I started swapping sexual messages with other men.
I did it more for attention I felt I wasn’t getting at home.
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I am a 32-year-old gay man and my boyfriend is 34. We’ve been together for three years.
My boyfriend got suspicious and looked on my phone. He’s still struggling to get over it, months later.
He says he doesn’t know if he can trust me and would rather be on his own.
He worries he’s not good enough for me, though I have tried to reassure him he is. How can I show him I love him like I have never loved anyone before?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You are shouldering all the blame but there are two of you in your relationship and some of the responsibility lies with your boyfriend.
Sexting was wrong but you were vulnerable to someone showing you interest, particularly given your partner’s inattention.
Broken trust can be rebuilt but that will take time and commitment. You can come back from this. My support pack Cheating – Can You Get Over It? should help.