DEAR DEIDRE: A GIRL on Instagram is claiming my boyfriend slept with her friend. The issue is, both these girls say they are 15.
Surely, if he did sleep with her, it would be illegal?
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I’m female, 20, my boyfriend’s 21. We’ve been together for two years.
Last month he went on a boy’s weekend away. He told me it was a “messy” night and he got blackout drunk.
He claims he can’t remember a thing, including losing his wallet. Last week, a random girl direct messaged me on Instagram.
She claimed that my boyfriend and his mates had gone back to her flat for an after-party and that he’d slept with her friend.
She says she can prove it because he left his wallet there.
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She’s yet to send me a photo of it, so I don’t know if I believe her.
But what’s concerning me more is that he might have had sex with someone else – and worse still she may have been underage.
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DEIDRE SAYS: The age of consent is 16, so if your partner did sleep with her, he would have broken the law.
This girl has nothing to lose by messaging you, whereas your boyfriend has plenty.
Ask your boyfriend again what happened and although you may never know the truth, trust your instinct.
Once you decide who you believe, you can choose your next steps.
A counsellor will help. Contact The Mix (themix.org.uk, 0808 808 4994) who give advice to under 25s.